sets your soul on fire..

When You’re Forcing Love To Stay Alive, It Isn’t Love Anymore.


Sometimes love is ugly, challenging, frustrating, painful – even in the happiest and strongest of relationships. Love takes work. It takes effort. Love is not always light and pretty. It takes the ability to admit when you’re wrong. It takes dedication, it takes loyalty.
But there is a difference between fighting for something that you know is too good to let go of, and clinging on to something that has already died.
Often, deep down, we already know when it’s not love anymore. What it is is familiarity, routine, insurance. It’s something we’ve gotten used to. It’s a security blanket. It’s the guarantee that we aren’t alone. Sometimes the death of love is easier to sense, if we’re with someone who directly makes us incredibly unhappy. And sometimes it’s harder to admit to ourselves, because we’re with someone whom we care about deeply, even if we’re no longer in love with them. But no matter the specific circumstances, we try to convince ourselves that the love is still there, because we’re not ready for the alternative.
And so we grasp onto it, no matter how much our gut resists, because we’d rather cling to something that is dead than willingly step into a world where we are hurt and alone.
It’s not a fault really, not a flaw. Just human nature. It is in our bones to want to be with other people. To feel instantly comforted from the touch or the assurance of another human being. To feel actual, physical pain when we stretch out in bed and are once again reminded that there is no longer a warm body in the place next to us.
But we must remember that there is a difference between forcing love and fighting for it. Forcing love – forcing yourself to feel something – is not love at all. It’s a manufactured emotion your body has created as a coping mechanism, a survival instinct. Forcing love means it’s already dead. And when you spend all your time forcing yourself to love someone, you miss the opportunity to fight for the person who really sets your soul on fire. The choice isn’t easy, but at least it’s yours..
Written by Kim Quindlen





SRAS..

Andai..

Rasa suka, sayang, kasih dan cinta; tak cukup hanya luahan tetapi perlu diselarikan dengan tindakan. Andai benar anda suka, pasti anda mengutamakannya. Andai benar anda kasih, anda takkan biarkan dia tersisih. Jika benar anda sayang, anda takkan benarkan dia hilang. Jika benar anda cinta, anda pasti sentiasa ingin membahagiakannya. Andai benar anda disukai, anda akan sentiasa dihargai. Andai benar anda dikasihi, anda takkan dibiarkan susah sendiri. Jika benar anda disayangi, keperluan dan kebajikan anda akan disentiasa dipenuhi. Jika benar anda dicintai, anda takkan dibenarkan merana di dalam hidup ini..




ANDAI...

ANDAINYA TAKDIR -AZ

Biarlah tiada pesan dan janji

Biar tiada kau di sisi 

Aku mengerti..

Seterdaya semampuku 

Kucoba menunggu 

Biarlah lompang hatiku ini 

Mengharap pulang kau yang pergi..

Kembalilah kepadaku 

Tika punah mimpi-mimpimu 

Kembalilah di saat perlu 

Episod-episod duka, biar berlalu..

Biarlah waktu ini 

Kau bebas berlari

Jika tersasar hilang arahmu 

Pulang ke pangkal ku menunggu..

Kembalilah kepadaku 

Tika punah mimpi-mimpimu 

Kembalilah di saat perlu 

Episod-episod duka, biar berlalu..

Biar sementara ini 

Tiada terisi kekosongan hati 

Diriku air tenang mengalir tuju muara 

Andainya memang takdir, berakhir, kuredha..

Kembalilah di saat perlu 

Episod-episod duka, biar berlalu..

# dapat mimpi pun dah happy.. Tq..